How did we even get here?
This is a thought most people have at some point in their lives. It seems these brief moments of reflection are all that we allow ourselves before moving out of the discomfort they bring.
So, for now, let's just say things happened and we need to move forward with our big girl pants on.
I call this course correction on the fly.
It's important to understand what makes us tick, and how can we course correct NOW - So we stop asking ourselves the question - How did we get here?
This metaphorical place is one we have created and is hard to see past. Our vision of what things "should be" is through the lens of someone in need. To switch gears to something else can be difficult. Especially at first!
So, I'm serious when I say take a moment to Breathe before you Think in order to Create a change that feels right (even if a bit uncomfortable).
Here are 3 tips to course correct:
Stand and face the music:
Be honest with your thoughts and feelings which got you to this point in time. Life is not all gumdrops and rainbows; it is o.k. to acknowledge that and stop pretending. Here is the twist, once you've done that, decide what are you going to do about it?
(Forgiveness and compassion of yourself and others can do wonders!)
Share your frustrations:
By keeping our thoughts and feelings to ourselves, we deny others from knowing us, what matters and what doesn't. When done too often people tend to think we agree with them when in fact we don't. We've just been going along to keep the peace! Let's face it; most people don't like confrontations. So, don't think of it as a one! Instead, think of it as sharing your thoughts. After all, they are just as valuable as everyone else's!
Quiet time was when we were sent as children to another room to think about what just happened. We were only allowed out when we understood how we should behave in the future.
Just because we are the adults doesn't mean we need this any less. Quiet time gives our brains a time of freedom, openness, and relief from burdens. (It helps to have a notepad nearby to purge everything in your brain) It also allows us to look at what is going on with a fresh set of eyes.
I have one last Bonus tip!
Many people think introspective work takes time and serious deep thinking. This is true if you want to go back and understand your past, to understand your patterns.
But, it is just as true to make introspective choices RIGHT NOW by being HONEST WITH YOURSELF!
How can you do this? Listen to your gut.
You know that gnawing, sickening feeling in your chest or stomach that makes you go against your natural tendencies but you know it is the right thing for you to do! YEP! That's the thing you need to listen to.
In case you need some thought starter questions there is a quick form to download to walk you through the process of course correction.
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